I’d like to share with you 2 personal stories of how I’ve witnessed the power of showing kindness to others in my life. I hope they will encourage you to love others; friends and strangers alike.



Several years ago, when I was about 13, I was hanging out with friends in a church parking lot. There were lots of children playing around us, including a few I’d never seen before. And for some reason, one of such children was standing beside us. A little girl of about 5 who had a limp. After awhile, my friends decided to go inside the church, and took off running. I guess the little girl wanted to follow us, because she called, “Wait up, guys!” But they were already gone. I looked down at her and considered waiting and walking into the church with her, but I was a bit confused- we didn’t know her and I wasn’t sure why she wanted to come with us. So I didn’t wait, I ran off to find my friends instead. Not long after (I believe it was either that night or the next), I saw the girl standing with her mother, who was telling another lady that she didn’t know why her daughter had been limping, and planned to take her to the hospital. What the doctors discovered was that she actually had cancer. After hearing the terrible news, I felt so bad for just leaving her. I wanted to go visit her and apologize while she was still in town, but I never got the chance. About 2 years later, she died. And ever since then, I’ve lived with regret of not waiting for her. How could I have been so selfish? I really have no excuse. What I did was awful. I hope to finally apologize to her as soon as I get to Heaven. And until then, I must always remember to wait; to take those extra minutes to show a little kindness. Because we have no idea just how much it can matter.



And then right about this time last year, I wrote a journal here at Love Costs Nothing, talking about reaching out to others. Soon after, I got a comment from a man who needed a friend, and we began talking. He was very depressed, and became even worse after his girlfriend left. I’ll admit it wasn’t always easy, but I continued to be there for him, every single day. And it saved his life, because he was often suicidal and I was all he had to live for. Fast forward to today, and he and I are happily engaged to be married. I love him with all my heart, and I’m so thankful he’s alive, and I can’t ever remember a time life was so very amazing. And it’s all thanks to this wonderful group, and because I decided to show a little kindness. I had no idea how much it would matter. But after all this, I have learned that being there for someone, in even the smallest of ways, truly can make all the difference in the world in both their lives and yours.  

It's been a  while since I've done anything positive. I heard about this method from someone. I decided to try it out and the effect was miraculous. The simplicity of this method is unbelievable even a child can do it but its effects are very strong. Within a day and a half I was a changed person. I have become what I wanted to be calm,controlled and mature. Here is the method:
The process of clearing and forgiving is about incorporating 4 statements which initiates the flow of healing, processing and clarification. This is what Dr. Hew Len used within his office as he focused healing upon himself, and indirectly, helped these men in the ward.

The magic 4 are as follows:

1. I'm sorry

2. Please forgive me

3. I love you

4. I thank you

It is to be repeated with full intent and feeling. Again, a simple yet powerful technique which has helped many people to this day. Once I understood the philosophy, which was not so distant from my own philosophy of healing along the way, I cannot underestimate the value it brought to me in my life and my practice. The flow of emails to me is evidence enough, and the way it has made me look at life and how I live, has been nothing short of a miracle.
~Lilian Eden